Stop Glorifying Overwhelm

Ever notice how we've glorified "busy" like it's some badge of honour?

"How are you doing?" "Oh mate, I'm so busy!."

As if drowning in work somehow validates our worth.

"It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it." — Seneca

Here's a sobering reality check: The average executive spends 23 hours per week in meetings, yet 71% feel those meetings are unproductive . That's nearly 3 full work days wasted every week!

But we keep showing up. We keep saying yes. We keep piling more onto our already overflowing plates.

I recently spoke with James , a 42-year-old business owner who, by all external metrics, had "made it." Multiple projects with long term clients. Office with 20 staff. 12-20 lads on the tools. Healthy six-figure salary plus annual dividends. Respect from his staff.

Yet in private, he confessed: "I'm exhausted all the time. I'm constantly putting out fires. And despite working 60+ hours a week, I don't feel like I'm making meaningful progress in any area of my life."

Sound familiar?

The brutal truth is that we've been conditioned to equate busyness with importance. Activity with productivity. Motion with progress.

"People are frugal in guarding their personal property; but as soon as it comes to squandering time they are most wasteful of the one thing in which it is right to be stingy." — Seneca

But here's what no one tells you: The constant push for more—more meetings, more projects , more commitments—isn't just unsustainable.

It's the short cut to mediocrity.

When you spread yourself too thin, you dilute your impact. You trade excellence for adequacy. Mastery for mere competence.

The most successful people I know don't do more.

They do less—but better.

They've discovered what I'm about to share with you: the art of identifying your true leverage points and ruthlessly eliminating everything else.

This isn't about working less (though that's often a welcome side effect).

It's about making sure every minute you spend is actually moving the needle on what matters most.

In the next few minutes, I'll show you exactly how to escape the trap of celebrated overwhelm and create lasting impact with less effort.

Because scaling back isn't weakness—it's the ultimate power move that 99% of people are too afraid to make.

The Busyness Delusion: Why Most High Achievers Fail Their Own Standard

"If you don't have a clear distinction between the vital few and the trivial many, you will be caught in the trap of trying to get a little bit better at everything, rather than becoming outstanding at a few things." — Marcus Aurelius

We've got it all backwards.

For years, I operated under a simple equation: More work = more success.

I took pride in being the first to arrive and last to leave. I wrote programmes at midnight. I filled every calendar slot with things that I thought would improve either my fitness or my business. I said yes to everything.

And for what?

• More stress

• Less sleep

• Strained relationships

• Diminished health

• And a gnawing feeling that despite all this "productivity," I was barely scratching the surface of my potential

The sick irony? The harder I worked, the less I accomplished anything truly meaningful.

Here 's why: Busyness is often just a sophisticated form of procrastination.

It keeps us occupied with low-impact tasks while giving us the illusion of progress.

Ever spend a whole day in back-to-back meetings, answering dozens of emails, and checking off minor tasks—only to realise you didn't move the needle on your most important project?

That's the busyness delusion at work.

"If a person doesn't know to which port they sail, no wind is favourable." — Seneca

Science backs this up. Research from Stanford University shows that productivity per hour declines sharply when the workweek exceeds 50 hours. And after 55 hours, productivity drops so much that putting in additional time would be pointless.

Yet the average high achiever ignores these limits , chasing the dopamine hit that comes from checking boxes and appearing productive.

Mark, a former client who ran a successful construction firm, exemplifies this perfectly.

On paper, Mark was crushing it. Seven -figure business. Growing team. Industry recognition.

But behind closed doors?

"I feel like an imposter," he confessed during our first session." My business is thriving, but my health is deteriorating. I haven't had dinner with my family in weeks. I can't remember the last time I did something just for enjoyment."

Mark was stuck in the cycle of celebrated overwhelm— busy but unfulfilled, productive but not impactful.

His transformation began with a simple yet radical shift: applying what I call the "Compound Value Filter."

Instead of asking "Can I do this?" he started asking "Should I do this?"

And not just in terms of immediate payoff, but in terms of compound value over time.

The results were staggering:

• Within 3 months, he cut his working hours by 40%

• Customer satisfaction scores increased by 22%

• Revenue grew by 15% (while working less!)

• He lost 18 pounds without "dieting"

• And most importantly, he reported feeling "back in control of my life"

His "aha" moment came when he realised that roughly 80% of his results were coming from just 20% of his activities.

"No man can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other; or else he will be devoted to one and despise the other." – Marcus Aurelius

This is the Pareto Principle in action, and it applies to virtually every area of life and business.

The key insight isn't just identifying that crucial 20% —it's having the courage to ruthlessly eliminate or delegate the rest.

This is where the Compound Value Filter becomes invaluable.

The Compound Value Filter is a mental model for evaluating any task, commitment, or project. It asks one simple question:

Will this activity compound into significant value over time, or is it merely maintaining the status quo?

• Reading the news for 30 minutes: Minimal compound value

• Building a system that automates a recurring task: High compound value

• Attending a "check-in" meeting with no agenda: Minimal compound value

• Having a deep strategy session with key decision-makers: High compound value.

• Responding to every email as it arrives: Minimal compound value

• Blocking 90 minutes for focused work on your highest-leverage project: High compound value

"True happiness is to enjoy the present, without anxious dependence upon the future, not to amuse ourselves with either hopes or fears but to rest satisfied with what we have, which is sufficient." — Seneca

Once you start viewing your time through this lens, everything changes.

You realise that scaling back isn't a sign of weakness or laziness.

It's strategic. It's intentional. It's powerful.

In fact, it might be the ultimate power move in a world that constantly pushes you to do more.

As Warren Buffett famously said: "The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything."

The Impact Multiplier Framework: 4 Steps to Escape Mediocrity

" Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication." — Leonardo da Vinci

This truth reveals itself when you study truly exceptional performers in any field. They don't scatter their energy across countless pursuits.

They focus intensely on what matters most.

"You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realise this, and you will find strength." — Marcus Aurelius

Take Warren Buffett, who attributes much of his success to saying "no" to the vast majority of investment opportunities that come his way.

Or Steve Jobs, who stripped Apple's product line down to just four core offerings when he returned as CEO—a move that saved the company from bankruptcy and set it on the path to becoming the most valuable company in the world.

The highest performers don't do more. They do less —but with greater intensity, focus, and strategic alignment.

Here's how you can apply the same principles to your life through the Impact Multiplier Framework:

Step 1: Conduct a Ruthless Activity Audit

Your calendar never lies.

"If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment." — Marcus Aurelius

For the next week, track everything you do. And I mean everything:

• Meetings

• Email time

• Commuting

• Administrative tasks

• Strategic work

• Family time

• Leisure

• Sleep

Use a simple spreadsheet with three columns:

1. Activity

2. Time spent

3. Impact score (1-10)

Be brutally honest with your impact scores. A 10 means this activity directly drives your most important outcomes . A 1 means it's largely busywork or could be eliminated with minimal consequences.

What most people discover is shocking: they spend 60-80% of their time on activities that score 5 or below.

James , the business owner I mentioned earlier, found that he was spending 27 hours weekly on activities that scored 3 or below—more than half his work week wasted on low-impact tasks.

The first revelation in this process is often painful. You'll see exactly where your time is leaking away.

But that pain quickly transforms into power when you realise how much potential you can unlock by real locating that time.

Step 2 : Apply the Compound Value Filter

Once you've mapped your activity landscape , it's time to filter mercilessly.

"Set aside a certain number of days, during which you shall be content with the scantiest and cheapest fare, with coarse and rough dress, saying to yourself the while: 'Is this the condition that I feared?'" — Seneca

For each activity scoring below a 7, ask yourself:

"Will this compound into significant value over time?"

Activities that compound typically share these characteristics:

• They build systems rather than just completing tasks

• They generate knowledge or skills that appreciate over time

• They strengthen important relationships

• They create assets that work for you while you sleep

Examples of high-compound activities:

• Building automated workflows

• Strategic thinking and planning

• Deep skill development

• Creating content that generates leads for years

• Building meaningful relationships with key stakeholders, close friends and family

Examples of low-compound activities :

• Attending informational meetings where nothing is decided

• Responding to non-urgent emails

• Manual tasks that could be automated or delegated

• Consuming passive content (vs. creating strategic content)

• Trying to please people who don't matter to your core objectives

The key insight : Not all work is created equal.

"Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants." — Epictetus

An hour spent on high-compound activities might be worth 10- 100x an hour spent on maintenance tasks.

Ant, a marketing supervisor I worked with, discovered that just 2 hours per week spent developing his team's capabilities returned more value than 15 hours he had been spending personally executing tactical work.

By investing in systems and people, he created compound returns that continued paying dividends long after his initial time investment.

Step 3: Practice Strategic Elimination

This is where courage comes in.

"He who fears death will never do anything worthy of a man who is alive." — Seneca

Most people know what they should stop doing, but few have the courage to actually stop.

The key is to be as intentional about what you'll stop doing as what you'll start doing.

Create a "stop doing" list with these categories:

• Tasks to eliminate completely

• Tasks to auto mate

• Tasks to delegate

• Commitments to gracefully exit

• Meetings to decline or restructure

For each item, develop a specific implementation plan:

For tasks to eliminate: Simply stop. Most aren't as necessary as you think.

For tasks to automate: Invest in tools or systems that can handle repetitive work.

For tasks to delegate: Identify who can take over and create a simple transition plan.

For commitments to exit : Script out exactly what you'll say. For example: "I've been reflecting on my commitments and realised I need to focus my energy on fewer areas to deliver the impact I'm capable of. Whilst I've valued [ this commitment], I need to step back from it by [specific date]."

For meetings to decline: Use templates like: "Thanks for thinking of me. I'm currently focusing on [key priorities] and being very intentional with my calendar . This doesn't align with my current focus, but I'd be happy to [alternative that requires less time /recommend someone else]."

"If you are pained by any external thing, it is not this thing that disturbs you, but your own judgment about it. And it is in your power to wipe out this judgment now." — Marcus Aurelius

Remember: Every "yes" is a "no" to something else. Make your "yeses" count.

Step 4: Double Down on Leverage Points

Now comes the rewarding part.

Take the time you've reclaimed and reinvest it strategically in your highest leverage points —those 20% of activities driving 80% of your results .

"How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself?" — Epictetus

But don't just do more of the same. Look for ways to multiply your impact:

• Can you systematize your high-value activities to make them even more effective ?

• Can you create force multipliers by involving or developing others?

• Can you build feedback loops to continually improve your high-impact work?

Most importantly, build in white space.

Some of your reclaimed time should remain unscheduled. This creates room for strategic thinking, unexpected opportunities, and recovery—all essential for sustained high performance.

"People look for retreats for themselves, in the country, by the coast, or in the hills... When it is possible, at any moment, to find such a retreat in oneself. For nowhere can a man find a more peaceful and trouble-free retreat than in his own soul." — Marcus Aurelius

Mark, the construction business owner I mentioned earlier, used his reclaimed time to develop new intellectual property that differentiated his firm from competitors. He also invested in deepening relationships with his top five clients.

The result? Higher- value projects, better retention, and more referrals—all while working fewer hours.

The most powerful outcome wasn't just better business results, though. It was his restored sense of control and purpose.

" For the first time in years ," he told me, "I feel like I'm choosing my life instead of just reacting to it."

That's the real promise of the Impact Multiplier Framework.

Not just better results—though those will come—but a renewed sense of agency and meaning.

Because at the end of the day, success isn't about how busy you are.

It's about the impact you create and the life you build in the process.

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." — Marcus Aurelius

What one small thing could you eliminate today to reclaim your focus and escape the mediocrity trap?

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